SECTION 1 THE PILLARS OF PERSONALITY The Pillars of Personality
SECTION 2 SELF-IMAGE AND SELF-ESTEEM Self-image and Self-esteem
SECTION 3 ENERGY AND DRIVE Energy and Drive
SECTION 4 PERSONALITY TYPES Personality Types
SECTION 5 TEMPERAMENT, MOOD AND EMOTIONS Temperament, Mood and Emotions
SECTION 6 INTELLIGENCE AND THINKING Intelligence and Thinking
SECTION 7 FEARS AND STRESSES Fears and Stresses
SECTION 8 WAYS OF COPING Methods of Coping
Anxieties and Insecurities
ANXIETIES AND INSECURITIES
Before we begin the study of anxieties and insecurities and how we manage them we will need to take a look at our attitudes to failure.
Why? Because our anxieties and insecurities are directly related to our worries about possible failure.
We all have within us certain abilities and powers whether we use them or not. The way we use our strengths and weaknesses leads to either positive or negative results in our lives.
We all have certain aims – things we want to achieve and do with our lives. We have all kinds of goals large and small which we can classify as major and minor goals. It’s easy enough to be able to distinguish between them.
Our major goals are our most important goals that we need to achieve in order to lead happy and fulfilled lives. Our minor goals are the little things that we would like to achieve or acquire – things that would make our lives more pleasant.
If we know exactly what our goals are we can go after them with determination using a combination of conscious and unconscious strategies. When we are successful life goes smoothly. When we achieve what we want we have few problems.
But when we are blocked by external circumstances or by difficulties of our own making or by weaknesses within our own characters, we are forced to deal with the fallout. When our desires are thwarted despite all our efforts, failure stares us in the face and problems start to surface.
We all have special forces within our own characters that either work for us or against us.
These forces are groups of character traits that either help by working for us to achieve our goals or work against us to prevent us from achieving them.
Collectively, the traits that work for us and help us to achieve we regard as character strengths. They include strong will power, determination, decisiveness, enthusiasm, persistence, ambition, energy and drive. These strengths support us, drive our personalities in a positive direction and help us to succeed.
This is the handwriting of Charles M. Schwab a famous steel magnate:
FEARS AND WEAKNESSES
We also have opposing forces lined up against us that challenge us and bring us to the edge of failure. These are our fears, anxieties and insecurities.
Our fears and insecurities behave like traitors by putting up stumbling blocks that sabotage our efforts – stumbling blocks to our success and well-being such as:
- Low self-esteem